Introverts: Expectations vs. Reality

              Quiet. Shy. Reserved. Anti-social. Loner. Yeah, no. These characteristics may apply to some people (including some extroverts), yet they do not define what it means to be an introvert. Introverts replenish their energy by being alone, while extroverts get their energy by being around other people. That’s the true definition, simple as it may be. Yet there’s a misconception out there about introverts, and it’s time to set the record straight.

              Introverts are successful in all industries, in all walks of life. You may be surprised to learn who in your life are actually introverts. It could be your spouse, your child, or even yourself. Most people are surprised to learn I’m much more introverted than extroverted. It’s surprising because my persona doesn’t match their expectations of what an introvert looks like. I am quite social, spend a lot of time networking, and am always meeting new people. And it does drain me. I know spending time with others will drain my energy, so I intentionally schedule alone time after big events or extra social days. This isn’t good or bad – it just is.

              So let’s talk about career paths. I’ve come across some articles providing lists of “introvert-friendly” career options, for lack of a better term. This is total nonsense! Introverts are capable of exceptional success in any industry they so choose. Here are a few examples of highly successful introverts: Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, Steve Wozniak, Elton John, Warren Buffet.  

              The reality is there is no way to see from the outside whether someone is an introvert or an extrovert. There are not concrete external signs that apply across the board. We are all a combination of both, there are people squarely in the middle who are called “ambiverts,” and each person has a unique set of personality traits that do not fit into a prescribed box. This is important for each of us to realize about ourselves and about others with whom we interact. The point is: there’s no way to judge or make a safe assumption. Instead, come from curiosity. Ask questions. Speak with an open mind. And look inward, as well. What you see inside yourself may surprise you.